Keeping My S.A.N.I.T.Y

Sometimes when strangers saw me, they will ask me how do I cope with 3 kids? Actually, I don't have an answer to that. I work full-time, I don't have a maid at home now (due to past bad experiences with them & I really gave up hope by relying on them) and my mum stays with me. My hb is very focus in his career & hardly has the time to help me, so I split my house chores between my mum & myself. I will do the house chores quietly when all the kids are asleep at night.

I don't consider myself as someone who has all the patience in the whole world to talk nicely to my children when they misbehave. Usually I will use the soft approach first and if that doesn't work for me, I will gather all my canes (I have around 8 canes in the house so far..haha) & will threaten them to listen properly. If they really commit mistakes (for e.g. lying & fighting), I won't spare the rod. If I don't discipline them now, I can't imagine what will they become as they grow up. I rather be the "evil mummy" now than lett them become the "bad apple" in the society. Of course sometimes I can be the doting mummy and reward them when they really behave well. 


My role in the house is like a mother / daughter / wife / maid / driver or what you can call me as BKL (Bao Ka Liao) mummy. Everyday is mad rush for me, I don't really have much chance to meet up with friends but only virtual meet up through facebook or msn. During times like these, I tend to think why I have three children and they are taking up so much of my personal time. I can't even eat, speak or behave gracefully when I'm out with them. My life & figure are going bonkers :(

But as the only child in the family & I understand the boredom & loneliness I have to face when I was young. That is the reason why I decided to have more than 1 children so that hopefully they won't face the same problem as me in the future. At the end of the day, I hope my sacrifices are all worth it.

Occasionally I will try to release my frustration through blogging (which gave me a sense of satisfaction) & glad to know a bunch of mummy bloggers who are willing share their tips & ideas openly with each other on how to deal with everyday life. I love shopping (window & virtual) and watching comedy shows/movies so I guess its one of the way to release my stress. Everyone has different ways of dealing with their stress, what is yours?